• Out Of The Shadows Patrick Carnes Audiobook

The much-anticipated second edition of the breakthrough book about recovering from online sexual addiction.As the Internet becomes a more powerful, imposing force in our lives, indeed becoming difficult to avoid, the potential for related problems also increases. This includes troubles of a sexual nature.

About The Author. Carnes, Ph.D., is an internationally known authority and speaker on addiction and recovery issues. He has authored over twenty books including the bestselling titles Out of the Shadows: Understanding Addiction Recovery, Betrayal Bond, Don’t Call It Love, The Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps and The Gentle Path through the Twelve Principles.

Out Of The Shadows Patrick Carnes Audiobook

1. Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes was one of the old books from my college/graduate school days (I can't remember exactly which) that I am no revisiting to see if it was worth keeping a hold of. This was a difficult, but also an interesting read for me.
2. Out of the Shadows Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick J Carnes and Publisher Hazelden Publishing. Save up to 80% by choosing the eTextbook option for ISBN: 692,. The print version of this textbook is ISBN: 218,.

When accessing porn no longer requires even a trip to the store, when we can view and participate in sexual activities anonymously, when younger and younger children are being exposed to sex online, when virtual interactions take over, limiting and even destroying real-time relationships, we are in crisis.Compulsive online sexual behavior is a real and growing problem. Yet the situation is not without hope. For those who are seeing signs of significant online problems in themselves or a loved one, this updated second edition of In the Shadows of the Net provides answers, understanding, and tools for recovery. With the latest statistics, discussion of recent technologies and devices, and new thinking on developing a healthy relationship with the Internet and avoiding relapse, this book offers authoritative, professional advice for achieving lasting, healthy change and healing.; July 2009. ISBN: 869.

Read online, or download in secure ePub format. Title: In the Shadows of the Net. Author: Patrick J Carnes; David L. Delmonico; Elizabeth Griffin.Imprint: Hazelden Publishing. Subject categories.ISBNs.

783. 869About The AuthorPatrick J. Carnes, PhD, is an internationally known authority and speaker on addiction and recovery issues. He has authored over twenty books including the bestselling titles Out of the Shadows: Understanding Addiction Recovery, Betrayal Bond, Don't Call It Love, The Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps and The Gentle Path through the Twelve Principles.Dr. Carnes' research provides the architecture for the 'task model' of treating addictions that is used by thousands of therapists worldwide and many well-known treatment centers, residential facilities, and hospitals. He founded IITAP (International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals), which provides CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) training and certification as well as cutting-edge information for addiction professionals. Carnes currently serves as a Senior Fellow and Executive Director for the Gentle Path Program at The Meadows in Wickenburg, Arizona.For more information on his work and contributions: www.patrickcarnes.com.

You can also find him on Facebook and Twitter: @drpatrickcarnes.

By on January 20, 2015 inAll addictions are cyclical in nature, with no clear beginning or end and one stage leading to the next (and then the next, and the next, and the next), leaving the addict stuck in an endless, downwardly spiraling loop. With sexual addiction, various models for explaining the cycle have been proposed. Patrick Carnes provided the first of these in his book, Out of the Shadows. Carnes broke the cycle into the following four stages:. Fantasy (Preoccupation). Ritualization (The Bubble).

Compulsive Sexual Behavior (Acting Out). Despair (Shame)Over the years, this cycle has been modified and expanded upon, and there are now many versions of the sex addiction cycle, each with merit. I generally prefer and utilize a six-stage model that is strongly based on Carnes’ initial offering. Stage One – Triggers (Shame/Blame/Guilt)Triggers are catalysts that create a need/desire to act out sexually. Most often, triggers are some sort of “pain agent.” Pain agents include both emotional and physical discomfort, either short- or long-term.

Depression, anxiety, loneliness, boredom, stress, shame, anger and any other form of emotional or psychological (or even physical) discomfort can easily trigger an addict’s desire to escape, avoid and dissociate. Positive agents can also serve as triggers. So if a sex addict gets fired from his or her job, he or she will want to act out sexually; and if that same addict gets a great new job, he or she will want act out sexually. If triggers are not dealt with in a healthy way (dissipated via a healthy, non-addictive coping mechanism like talking to supportive friends, family members or a therapist), then the addiction inevitably progresses to stage two. Stage Two – Fantasy (Control)After being triggered and therefore needing/wanting to escape and dissociate, sex addicts automatically turn to their primary coping mechanism – sexual fantasies. They start thinking about how much they enjoyed past sexual encounters and how much they would enjoy a sexual encounter either right now or in the near future. (Such encounters may occur in person or online.) At this point, the addict is preoccupied to the point of obsession with his or her sexual fantasies.

Every person encountered by the addict (again, whether in person and online) is viewed as a sexual object. The addict’s fantasies do not involve memories of bad experiences or unwanted consequences.

Once the addict is mired in fantasy, it is very difficult to stop the addictive cycle without some sort of outside intervention. Stage Three – RitualizationRitualization is where fantasy moves toward reality. This stage adds excitement, intensity and arousal. The addict logs on to the computer and goes to his or her favorite porn site, or hops in the car and drives to a place where sex workers congregate or begins the process of booking an out-of-town business trip on which he or she can act out sexually without restraint. This stage of the cycle is also known as “the bubble” or “the trance” because the addict gets lost in it.

Real-world issues and concerns disappear as the addict focuses more and more intently on his or her sexual fantasies and preparations. This stage of the addiction (rather than actually having sex) provides the escapist “high” that sex addicts seek. As such, sex addicts typically try to stretch this stage for as long as possible – looking at porn, cruising for casual sex, chatting via Webcams and the like for many hours (or even days) before moving to the next stage.

Stage Four – Acting Out (Release)Most non-sex addicts think that this stage, rather than stage three, is the ultimate goal of sexual addiction because this is where actual sex and orgasm takes place (either solo or with another person/people). However, as alluded to above, the fantasy-fueled escape and dissociation of stage three is the real objective. In fact, most sex addicts try to put off actual sex and orgasm for as long as they possibly can because orgasm ends the escapist high and tosses the addict back into the real world with all of its issues and problems. Worded differently, sex addicts are looking to escape emotional discomfort, not to experience the pleasure of orgasm. Orgasm actually brings their high to an abrupt halt.

Stage Five – NumbingAfter acting out, sex addicts attempt to distance themselves emotionally from what they’ve just done (again!). About Rob Weiss, LCSW Robert Weiss LCSW, CSAT-S, founded the Sexual Recovery Institute and is the author of.

He is coauthor, with Dr. Jennifer Schneider, of,.Rob has served as a media specialist for CNN, the Oprah Winfrey Network, the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times and The Today Show, among many others, usually discussing either sexual addiction or the intersection of technology and human relationships. He currently holds the role of Senior Vice President of Clinical Development at Elements Behavioral Health and has developed clinical programs for The Ranch, Promises, Right Step and numerous other facilities. Rob is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, Psych Central, Counselor Magazine and The Huffington Post.